Ever wonder if you can detect whether your date is a loser?

I constantly hear people complaining about their dating status and relationships.  What most people don’t realize is that they have control over these situations.  Many problems can be avoided early on.  It doesn’t take a psychic to notice that something just isn’t right.

While many of us choose to ignore the fact that a date is not exactly what we were hoping for and maybe the person just isn’t right for us, we willingly enter into relationships out of loneliness and desperation.  We’ve all been there.

Have you ever been on a date and the guy constantly brings up his ex? This is a sign that he probably isn’t over her and you’re the rebound person.  Ignore it?  I think not.  The ex will only rear her ugly head later on in the relationship and you’ll be forced to either kick him to the curb or cry yourself to sleep after eating a gallon of ice cream and drinking two bottles of wine.  Save yourself the hangover and the pounds!

Why do you insist on dating women that are still in party mode leaving their kids with any Tom, Dick, or Harry that will watch them? If you’ve been on at least three dates with a woman that never mentions her kids, doesn’t have custody of them or seems to have an awful lot of kid-free time, you may want to drop your drink and stab yourself with the fork as you’re running for the door.  If she doesn’t take interest in her kids, chances are she’ll soon lose interest in you, too!

Yes……we can all blame the universe for our horrible relationships, but the truth is……there are always warning signs.  Prevent problems early on and learn to enjoy your own company, during a dating drought.  Here are some warning signs that you may want to be aware of:

1. He’s always late and never lets you know where he lives…….RUN!!!  He’s married.
2. She is texting non-stop and always needs to leave to make a call……RUN!!  There are probably other men.
3. He is very disrespectful towards his mother and sisters….RUN!!  He hates women!
4. He never has any money…….RUN!! He’s probably paying thousands in child support or alimony and you’ll always have financial problems, if you end up with him.
5. Kids are constantly with babysitters or living in another home? RUN!! She is selfish and probably doesn’t have a heart.
6. He talks about himself excessively and shows no interest in your life? RUN!! He is in love with himself.  What does he need you for?
7. She has no contact with any family members? RUN!!! If her family doesn’t like her, you probably won’t either.  If by chance she has a dysfunctional family, who really needs the drama?
8. He wants to leave his kids with you, while he goes out with the boys? RUN!!! Leave those kids with the Baby Mama!
9. He has a lot of money, but doesn’t have a job?  RUN!!!  Girl……you know what he’s doing!
10. Last, but not least…….He is forty-five and still lives with his mother? RUN!! Who wants to live in Mom’s basement playing Xbox for the next twenty years?

Don’t be offended by my list because we’ve all been there.  I’m only trying to educate you on the rules of dating.  Knowledge is power and you have no excuse to be in a revolting, problem-riddled relationship! Remember…….RUN!!! Oh…..and print this list and take it with you on your next date.

“Dating is pressure and tension. What is a date, really, but a job interview that lasts all night?” Jerry Seinfeld

Author: Rhonda Gutierrez
Image: Paula Anderanin