As I was entering church holding my son, a diaper bag, a sippy cup, and my purse, the door slammed in front of me. Do you think the man entering the church ahead of me could have held it open? NO! I was shocked…at church of all places!
Do gentleman exist these days? It seems they don’t. Call me old-fashioned but I really feel that good manners go a long way. I can’t tell you how many times I have witnessed men’s poor behavior. Not only do they not hold doors open, but they curse and use profanity in front of everybody. Oh, and did I forget to mention that I constantly hear men bragging about the booty they tapped last night?
Working in the restaurant business has been a rude awakening. Every day is a brand new learning experience. I witness men ordering their meals before their dates have a chance to order. I recently approached a table and asked a young lady what she would like to drink. Her date rudely yelled out that he’d like a beer. I slowly turned to him, looked him in the eye and said, “I’m sorry, but I asked the young lady what she’d like to drink.” The girl said, “Yeah! She asked me what I wanted to drink! Don’t you know how to be a gentleman?” He learned a good lesson that night.
Many guys expect for the lady to pay the bill while on a date. Some guys even tell the young lady what she is allowed to order. WOW!  I was always taught that the woman should order first and the man should pay the bill. Don’t get me wrong. I can understand the woman paying the bill if for business or in a long-term relationship, but on a first date? What is going on? What happened to old-fashioned values and respect?
As the mother of a young son, I can guarantee that he will be taught to treat women like gold. He will open their doors, carry their groceries, show respect, and speak kindly to all women.
If my daughter ever brings home a young man that treats her poorly or with disrespect, he will be thrown out of my home by his ear and then I’ll call his mother!
I know many men will use the excuse that women do not appreciate a kind gesture. They’re probably right in some cases; however, many of us do appreciate a good man. Sure, guys will say that women want to be equal. However, we still expect kindness and respect.
Guys, take my advice:Â Behaving like gentlemen will only benefit you. You will get more dates and attention for your kindness than you could ever imagine.
Ladies, take the time to thank a man who holds your door or offers you a parking space. They will appreciate it.
Parents, teach your sons respect and manners. Teach your daughters to accept nothing less than good behavior from their dates.
Frankly, I’m sick of rude guys with their pants sagging and dingy underwear showing. Buy some oxyclean and some pants that fit. That way, you can hold the door instead of your pants!
Author: Rhonda Gutierrez
Hell Yeah Rhonda!!!! You Rock!!!! I love that article it’s so true. These day’s it seems that chivalry is dead. Thanks for being the voice of sooo many woman. Let’s wake these Men up!!!!!! And keep teaching our childern how to be respectful…
Amen to that!
You hit it dead on girl! After dealing with 3 men that had no idea of what a gentlemen was you have no idea how great it is to finely have on that could write a book on it. And you know that he get’s told how much I appreciate it, because he is such a oddity now a day’s.
unfortinatly your right, but i was raised with 4 sisters so i got to learn the do and donts of woman early and now i have 4 daughters and dealing with it first hand . lol
I love the article all your articls keep it up…
While I agree that there are less gentlemen in the world now, I have to point out one thing missing from the article. Ladies, we brought it on ourselves! Remember the women’s movement who insisted that we be treated just like a man? If a man held a door open, often times he would get chewed out rather than thanked! Women demanded equal treatment & insisted that we were not to be treated special under any circumstances, and we got what we asked for.
We let guys get the goodies without marriage or relationship, so of course they now talk about tappin the booty! Instead of insisting on respecting ourselves, we became the baby mama, how many 1st dates were included in those arrangements?
On top of it, staying with a guy who treats us like that, letting our daughters see it & think it normal, just sets us up for more of the same.
I have a son that I have been raising to be a gentlemen, & people are shocked beyond belief that the boy holds the door for people! I have a teenage daughter that I have been teaching to respect herself & her body & not be used & treated badly. Ask me in a few yrs how it worked out. I have hope for the future if we see this now & raise OUR kids different