Death has always scared me. Â It makes me worry about losing my children, my parents, my husband, my siblings, my friends, and anyone I care about. Â The strange thing is that I’m not afraid to die. Â The only problem I have with dying is leaving my kids behind. I know they need me and only Mommy can do all those special little things that mean so much to them. Â I’m the only one that knows how to fix my daughter’s hair just perfect. Â My son only allows Mommy to fix his boo-boos. Â I don’t want to die and leave them but I’m not afraid of dying.
With the recent deaths of family members, friends and celebrities, death has been a lingering thought in my head for months. Â I finally realized that once we’re gone, life goes on. It doesn’t matter if you’re Michael Jackson, Elvis, or Ronald Reagan. Â Life goes on. Â People mourn and remember you but they ultimately go on living. Â This brought me to the theory that I must live in such a way that my life will continue with those I leave behind. My children will sing the songs to their children that I sang to them. Â My daughter will use my recipes when she cooks for her family. Â My nieces and nephews will remember all the special things I did with them and remember me fondly. Â My articles will influence the lives of many readers. My advice will help those facing challenges. Â This is the way I choose to live my life. My life is about enriching the lives of others, while enjoying the short time I have here. Â It doesn’t matter how, when, or where I will die, but how I live and the reason I was born. Â And…I truly believe I was born to be a helping hand to those in need. Â When my time comes, I hope I made a difference in this world.
Author: Rhonda Gutierrez
I, too, am only afraid of leaving those behind, not of actually dying. Anya needs me and there is no replacement. Just like I need my dad, and there is no replacement.
When I’m having a tough time and I long to hear my dad’s advice, I just sit quietly and his words come to me. I know what he’d say, if he could. I had 34 years to learn lessons from him..so I only need to pay attention now.
There is no doubt in my mind that you’ve made a difference in a lot of people’s lives. I for one, am glad to call you a friend.
My sister past away about eleven years ago, and I feel her around me all the time, exspecially when it counts. My birthday was a few days ago, and when I got into my car to go to work, I heard a song on the radio “We are family–I got all my sisters with me.” I knew it was her trying to tell me happy birthday. I remember she would sing that song while putting her arm around me, smiling and laughing. I miss my big sister.
Even though we cannot see or hear them, they let us know they’re here. It could be a song, a book, a flower, or even food. They are always visiting. +
When I was much younger, I had a horrible fear of dying. After losing so many close friends and family, especially the death of my baby brother and also the death of my friend, I came to the realization that it is unavoidable. I hope and pray that I get to live many years, but if I should die soon, I am not afraid of dying. My only fear is not of those I would leave behind, because I know with time, they will go on living their lives as stated in this article, no, my fear is not being able to finish or do things I’ve always wanted to do. My fear is not being able to see some of the people I love for one last time. But life is what you make it out to be. Live every day as if it were your last. If you are a man, do not be afraid to tell a male friend or family member that you love them. Has nothing to do with being macho, it’s love and it is perfectly ok to say “I love you man”. Reach out to those you’ve loved in the past and lost contact with. Even if you reach 90 years of age, there is never enough years to do everything, so savor every moment.