What’s up everybody! For those that don’t know me, I’m Andres Pivens. Something that’s been popping up is the question of why men cheat. Some might argue that human beings, particularly males, are not monogamous creatures. To me that sounds like a cop out “Um…but honey…It wasn’t my fault!!†Some might say that we, males, get bored with the same booty. Instead of looking at the menu but not being able to order, we take that dangerous step of going straight for dessert.
For some males there are deeper problems, such as abandonment issues. Regardless of the cause, being abandoned can lead to cheating in future relationships. It’s the whole “I’ll hurt you before you hurt me†scenario.
Then, there’s “sexual addiction.† This phenomenon, which has not universally been accepted by sexologists, seems like a celebrity’s only way to save their marriages and bank account! (Cough, cough: Tiger Woods).
Now, check out the flip side to the coin. We can commit ourselves to relationships whether it’s something serious relationship or even marriage. The sex is always great at first! Then, when the “honeymoon phase†is over, sex isn’t as frequent or as freaky. Understandably, things can slow down. When the “lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets†women we fell in love with is now a distant memory, we feel like we’ve been bamboozled! Women should ask themselves, if they are ready to maintain a mutually satisfying a healthy sex life just as we are expected to remain monogamous.
In no way, do I condone this activity but this is dealing with what is seen as human nature. When we no longer feeling attractive to our significant other is when we stray toward someone who seems to give us what we are looking for. So ladies… are you ready to commit yourself to a healthy sexual relationship? I can hear you ladies now “I don’t have to have sex if I don’t want to! I’m not his sex slave you know!†If you’re saying this, then you’re missing the point. It’s about learning together how to keep things fresh, new, and exciting. Good luck and remember…a fat kid never wanders far from the cake!
Author: Andres Pivens
Hmmm, do not know how to take this article. I suffered from abandonment issues. But I never cheated. I would end the relationship before I cheated. Let me correct myself. I did cheat only after I had first hand proof that my significant other cheated. I stayed in the relationship in hopes of the cheating on the other side would end. It did not, and I finally ended it. So not all men cheat because they are not getting any. I also think it goes with age. Women are older than men chronologically by about 8 years. So with everything they go through, from having children, menstrual cycle and raising children, they go through more than most men can only imagine. To demand or “blackmail” them into having sex when we want it is unfair in my book. This is coming from me, a fellow man. Communication is central to any relationship. Agreements must be made adn followed in order to keep a healthy relationship going. And nothing wrong with taking care of one self when the significant othe ris not in the mood. It’s cheaper and less stressful than the alternative.